All praises belong to Allah, the most Beneficent, the entirely Merciful. The One, who has made trials and ordeals parts and parcel of human existence, the One whose favour is limitless. May He in His unequaled benevolence shower His choicest blessing upon the noble soul of our beloved prophet, Muhammad, his household, his companions and those who are upon his guidance until the last day.
The orientation many Muslim youths fetch from their parents nowadays has obviated many of them from taking the issue of Marriage (Nikaah) seriously, especially at the very first period they are obviously due for it. The notion is always that they have to meet certain core of life, especially education, before talking of Marriage (Nikaah). Only few parents understand that this our contemporary society can easily allure a fully matured youth into ungodly acts, such as illicit sexual affairs (Zina). So in trying to guide their adolescent children aright, they encourage and support them to conduct Nikaah. Although, it is not that those parents who keep acting on the opposite trend are unaware of the rudimentary fact, but it is just that they have tailored their orientation to resemble that of the Kafirun who turn Marriage to lavish occasion. So by implication, they credit that one can only conduct marriage when he/she is extremely moneyed.
As much as it is normal to think that one should not be too impecunious whilst considering marriage; one should as well contemplate about the evils behind deferring marriage to a later period, especially when that person is not only obviously due but also command the means to enter into the conjugal relationship.
In the Hadith narrated by Abdullah bn Masud (May Allah be pleased with him), he reported that “Allah’s Messenger (Peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said to us: O young men, those among you who are able to marry should marry, for it restrains eyes (from casting evil glances) and preserves one from immorality; but he who cannot afford it should observe fast for it is a means for controlling sexual desire.”
From the above quoted Hadith, it is clear that it is highly recommended that when one is able and capable to marry, he should do so, especially when he fears that its delay may lead him into committing Zina. This is as well applicable to the female. However, a person can resort to fasting when it is obvious that he cannot afford Nikaah.
Nowadays, many parents could spend as much as millions to send their children to higher institutions, but only few of them could think of sending them to Madrasa (School of Arabic and Islamic studies) where they can actually learn the Shariah. Perhaps, this explains why many of them do not know how grievious is Zina under Shariah. So when the right thing is not done, the wrong thing becomes the normalcy . Infact, some parents do not even see any wrong in their children having intimate relationship with opposite sex. Subhanallah! That is the extent our society has transmogrified these days. And a lot of people see it as normal thing in spite of the injunction of Almighty Allah in Surah Al Israa (Q17 v 32):
Where Allah SWT says:
وَلَا تَقْرَبُوا الزِّنٰىٓ ۖ إِنَّهُ ۥ كَانَ فٰحِشَةً وَسَآءَ سَبِيلًا
“And do not approach unlawful sexual intercourse. Indeed, it is ever an immorality and is evil as a way.”
In higher institutions today, a lot of unrighteous things keep happening. You see male and female shaking hands, hugging and even kissing! The worst parts is the dating aspect. Imagine the effect this would imprint in the mind of upright Muslims who would have loved to perform Nikaah had it been their parents supported them just as they have done to their education.
The clarion call here is directed to the parents to encourage and support their children in higher institutions to get married so as to prevent them from drowning into Zina. It is highly indispensable for us as Muslims to strive and struggle to secure our hereafter. The higher institution’s certificate, that appears to be the main mark and the explanation why many youths nowadays shelve Nikaah, is only meant to manifest its role in this life and not in the hereafter.
Islam actually frowns at extravagance. Therefore, one does not need to gather all the money in either the Central Bank or the World Bank before one can conduct Nikaah. In fact, the couple may be students at the time of conducting the Nikaah, and this is even the best for them as it will legalise their relationship. Even in some cases, the Aqd-Nikaah may be conducted while the walimatu-al-Nikaah be postponed to a later date, perhaps after the couple’s graduation from higher institution. The possibility of this will actually preclude Muslim youths from slipping into the realm of Zina.